Communicating With A Loved One Who Isn't Managing Their Diabetes
It is concerning when a loved one is not managing their diabetes well.
Out of caring and frustration, we may apply pressure, criticism or guilt to change their behavior even when we know these tactics will not work.
What can help is communicating in an autonomy-supportive manner. By focusing on your loved one’s feelings, needs and goals, you can encourage successful diabetes management without attacking or annoying them.
Encouraging a person’s autonomy requires you to understand their viewpoint and nurture their self-motivation. This is done by:
Showing that you understand and empathize with their point of view. For instance,“I realize it’s difficult going to parties where people enjoy food and drink not on your diet plan.”
Giving them the rationale for any advice offered. For instance: “I recall the doctor said if your evening glucose readings were consistently high you might need your insulin dose changed. I think we should give the doc a call.”
Showing concern. For instance:“You seem a bit scattered today, like you're having trouble focusing. I’m concerned about you.”
Offering options whenever possible. For instance,“What do you think, should we take our walk this morning or wait until this afternoon?”
Asking about their experience of the illness and acquiring an accurate understanding of their feelings and capabilities. For instance:“What does an insulin shot feel like? Has it become easier, or does it still make you anxious?” or, “What is the most difficult part of managing diabetes?”
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