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Dating With Type 1 Diabetes

Dating With Type 1 Diabetes

When Tia Deverts told her family that her then-boyfriend, Jim Pettit, had been diagnosed with type 1 diabetes, they asked, "Are you going to continue to date him?" She replied, "Of course. Why wouldn't I?" Pettit, now 26, was diagnosed with type 1 diabetes a few months after he turned 21. By then, he and Deverts had been dating for two years. He wasn't at all surprised by her reaction. "She was completely fine with dating someone with diabetes," Jim says. They married in September 2012, and make their home in Arlington, Va. Sysy Morales, 29, of Roanoke, Va., was diagnosed with type 1 diabetes when she was 11. Like the Pettits, her story of dating with diabetes has a happy ending: She's been married to Alex Munoz for four years, and they have 3-year-old twins, a boy and a girl. Others, however, say that dating with diabetes isn't always easy. In her blog, "The Girl's Guide to Diabetes," Morales writes that a lot of that difficulty may be in your head. When you have type 1 diabetes, for instance, you're afraid that a love interest won't see you as sexy, especially if you have an insulin pump attached to your body. Dating With Diabetes: True Confessions The biggest issue for those with diabetes is often when to tell the person they're dating about their disease. On the first date? Only after it looks like your relationship may be going somewhere? Before you're about to walk down the aisle? Morales says it wasn't an issue for her. She'd known Munoz since they were in middle school, and though they didn't actually start dating until after college, he already knew she had type 1 diabetes. When they were just friends, Morales says, Munoz didn't really know what living with diabetes was like. When they started dating, she says, he wanted to know all that he could and took it up Continue reading >>

Dating And Type 1 Diabetes

Dating And Type 1 Diabetes

Socializing, friends, and close relationships are very important to anyone – with or without diabetes. Telling dates about your diabetes isn’t always easy, and how and when you tell them is a personal decision. Diagnosed with type 1 diabetes at age 7, MiniMed Ambassador, Dakota, has had diabetes for 12+ years. Hear how he’s approaching the dating scene with diabetes. Q. When do you usually tell the person you’re dating or your friends about your diabetes? A. I have never been shy about living with diabetes, and am always happy to talk about it with anyone who will listen. Usually the person I am dating already knows about my diabetes, as I am usually pretty open about talking about it with people. If they don’t know, the question I most often get asked about is my insulin pump on my side. They’re curious to know what it is. Q. How do you usually tell the person? A. Usually, I say I have type 1 diabetes, and have had it for over 12 years, since January 3rd, 2003. Then it is a lot of questions and answers back and forth until the other person feels they understand enough. Q. How much do you share about your diabetes? A. I tell a significant other or someone I care about just about everything there is to know about living with type 1. In my eyes, there is no reason to hold anything back and I want to be very open with the other person. I do my best to educate others so they have a better understanding of diabetes and what’s going on if I have a high or low BG. The only difference between you and me is I wear my pancreas on the outside of my body. Q. What is the biggest challenge in telling someone about your diabetes? A. Trying to right the wrongs they have been told about diabetes. For example, most people think just because you have diabetes, you cannot eat Continue reading >>

Type 1 Diabetic Out On The Dating Scene

Type 1 Diabetic Out On The Dating Scene

Diabetes Forum The Global Diabetes Community Find support, ask questions and share your experiences. Join the community Hi im jesse im type 1 diabetic insulin dependent . Im writing here to get some advice, i have resentlly started getting back into the dating game . But not with any luck it seems that when i tell the people im on a date with our dating they think that im lazy and eat really unhealthy , i have even been told when i do my injections that i look like a herion addict . I have allways been a healthy eater as far back as i can remember my mum even said that i would pick fruit over sweets our icecream when i was young . I play tennis every thursday and go to the gym every other day i dont drink alchohol so no never am i lazy nor do i eat unhealthly . Does anybody have any advice Go and do your injection in the wash room if it's an issue, i usually do especially if you're unsure how people may react. Some people are squeamish and others just come out with that stupid shit that you look like a heroin addict. If they think that looks like a heroin addict then they're stupid as *uck, it's just ignorance really. Tell them to watch the movie Trainspotting, slight difference between the two lol TorqPenderloin Type 1 Well-Known Member Sounds like you had some bad dates more than anything else. It also sounds like you may be making this a bigger deal than it is. Obviously, you have a right to be concerned about it, but many people don't know how to react when they see someone taking insulin. If you act like it's a big deal, they might too. Be yourself. Maybe hide some (or most) of your bad habits (we all have them) if possible, but don't try to be someone you're not. Don't change, if they are that shallow they're not worthy of you, you'll meet someone who will want y Continue reading >>

Diabetes Dating Site For All Sweet People Like You

Diabetes Dating Site For All Sweet People Like You

Living with Diabetes Can Take its Toll.Sharing Your Life with People WhoUnderstand You Is What Gets You Through it. Meet Them Right Here, Right Now and You'll Be Over the Moon! Enjoy lots of great features available for you to try! Diabetes Dating Site For All Sweet People Like You Diabetes Dating Site - you might ask why? Well, here are some answers. The usual opinion is that we are all equal as human beings and that we share the same experiences. But someone said that there are two kingdoms on Earth, one is for the healthy and the other one for the sick people. It can be easily translated into one kingdom for diabetic people, and the other one for everybody else. It is more than natural that a man or a woman suffering from diabetes would like to share thoughts, emotions, sexuality and life with someone alike. If you are not diabetic than you might ask yourself why is that such an issue. Well, if you have to measure your sugar levels every day sometimes several times a day, when you need insulin injections or insulin pumps (if you are insulin dependent), when you need to take care about your nutrition- in a meticulous way, it is more than understandable why should you look for someone who shares your daily concerns. Diabetes is a chronic condition and it demands a certain lifestyle. Planning family, children or something else it doesn't matter it could be with more smiles and more joy. You will not regret visiting Diabetes Dating Site, not a bit. You will find out you are not alone and that there are many young and old, tall, big, bold, curly men and women from any race and background with whom you will be able to share and find out what you have been looking and fantasized about all the time. That is the reason why Diabetes Dating Site will become your best friend. D Continue reading >>

What To Expect When Dating A Person With Type 1 Diabetes

What To Expect When Dating A Person With Type 1 Diabetes

Type 1 diabetes is an illness which is not easy to manage and it influences practically everything in life. When someone starts dating a person with type 1 diabetes, there might be some things that are good to know. Firstly, you should know the basics of type 1 diabetes. The internet has tons of very good information available. Here is a nice fact sheet about type 1 diabetes from Juvenile Diabetes Research Foundation (JDRF). The symptoms of hypos and hypers differ amongst diabetics Now that you know the cold facts, you should know that every person with type 1 diabetes is unique. Exercise raises someone’s BG levels, whereas others have to drink sugary drinks to avoid going low. Different diabetics experience low or high blood glucose levels differently. One might get angry or anxious when approaching a low BG, whereas some just go pale and shaky. It gets worse at the grocery store if one has a hypo standing in line with a chocolate bar in hand. They would just want to pay for the candy bar so they can eat it but the queue just won’t MOVE! That for e.g. is when I feel a bit aggressive but I have learned to just eat the candy bar while standing there and pay for the wrap. Eventually you’ll probably learn to see when your significant other is acting “like in a hypo”. However, you might want to avoid suggesting a blood glucose measurement. Nothing feels as frustrating when someone invalidates a type 1 diabetic’s negative emotions by suggesting ”It’s only your diabetes doing its tricks”. I would think it is something like telling an angry woman “it’s just your hormones talking”. Tread carefully here. At high BG levels the most common symptoms are fatigue and frequent need for urination, but there are differences here too. For the first few years since Continue reading >>

Diabetic Dating And Online Personals At Diabeticdate.com

Diabetic Dating And Online Personals At Diabeticdate.com

dating service that caters to people that have diabetes and of course, any other singles interested in finding that special someone start meeting like minded individuals who are looking for friendship, dating and more! Show up on time. It is a first warning sign of disrespect for a woman. Smell nice and have a fresh breath (a little bit of aftershave will do the trick). Talking only about diabetes will bore her to death. She probably knows all about it. Ask questions, ask questions and even more questions. Keep her interested. Be funny but show her your serious side also. Don't call her or send emails 5 times a day. For her to be into you, she needs to be away from you for some time. Women love anticipation and surprises. Don't talk about your ex on first date, or talk about "sexual positions" that you prefer. Relax and just enjoy the night. He is probably stressed too thinking if this diabetic personals thing will work. One thing that will make him focus on you is nice, but not artificial smile. Talk about diabetic dating and how easy would it be to control each others diabetes. Don't open up too much at first date. An Enigmatic woman drives men wild. Use your body language as much as you can, especially if you really like him. Don't laugh histerically at every thing he says. He'll run away even before the dinner is over. Don't talk about your ex on first date, and how every man on the face of this earth is a liar. Continue reading >>

The Boyfriend/girlfriend Guide To Caring For Someone With Type 1

The Boyfriend/girlfriend Guide To Caring For Someone With Type 1

Congratulations! You’re dating someone amazing, funny, beautiful and strong, who also has Type 1. If you are feeling overwhelmed or worried, there is no need. Here are tips that can help you take care of your significant other and the essentials in diabetes care that are a must-know! Insulin! Our bodies do not make insulin. We need insulin to process food that we are eating. Therefore, we can use either the pump or injections via a pen and a needle to administer the insulin. Learn more about insulin delivery methods. Devices The monitors that are attached to our skin are not a smoking patch, a pager, or a prop! These monitors help us stay healthy. One of these monitors is a CGM, or continuous glucose monitor. This small device tracks our glucose day and night, and notifies us of highs and lows. The other monitor is an insulin pump. An insulin pump gives our body insulin throughout the day and during meals through the flexible plastic tube. Extra baggage And we aren’t talking about exes! We will usually always carry a few items with us wherever we go. These things help us get through the day healthy and safe. Here are a few things you can familiarize yourself with. Blood glucose meter, test strips, and a lancing device. In other words, the small device that shows us what our blood sugar is, the test strip that goes into the device, and the pricker that we use on our finger to get a drop of blood onto the test strip. Check out The Daily-diabetes Care Kit. Fast-acting sugar that we will take in case we have a low. This could be anything from glucose tablets (which strongly resemble SweetTarts), candy, or juice boxes. Depending on the type of bionic pancreas that we have, we either carry pens and pen needles or supplies for a pump. Daily care We might have to check our Continue reading >>

People In The Know: Dating With Type 1 Diabetes

People In The Know: Dating With Type 1 Diabetes

Q: Our daughter just went on her first date…and then ended up at the ER when she almost passed out at the mini putt range and the manager called 9-1-1. We think she was nervous and didn’t eat what she needed to (though she denies it). She wants to go out on another date, but I don’t think we can trust her so soon again, especially since she seems to be in denial. What do we do? A: Can I first say here that I really feel for your daughter? It does sound like her nerves got the best of her — after all, who doesn’t have a serious case of butterflies on their first-ever date? However, you’re right to view this incident as a red flag that she may not be mature enough yet to balance these kinds of social situations with her type 1 care. Before you make any hard and fast decisions about dating, however, check in with your daughter to see if you can have a more fruitful discussion about the incident. It sounds like your daughter may need education around the issue of expressing her needs. In your conversation, it’s important for her to hear the message from you (even if you have said it before) that asking for help whenever she feels a low or otherwise needs assistance is a very grown up and mature thing to do. Whether you decide it’s next month or next year, there will come a time when you agree your daughter is ready to venture back out onto the dating scene. Before this next date, communicate some basic ground rules you expect her to follow. These might include: The person she is going to be with must know she has diabetes. Before the date, this person must be educated about the signs and symptoms of low blood sugar and how to respond. Your daughter must always carry a meter, supplies and treatment for lows (fruit juice, hard candy, etc.) when she leaves the Continue reading >>

Dating A Person With Type 1 Diabetes

Dating A Person With Type 1 Diabetes

Dating a person with type 1 diabetes brings some very unique challenges to any relationship. Of course, simply being the diabetic and dating can be difficult for some, but this article is for those non-diabetics who find themselves attracted to someone who just happens to also live with this disease. I use the word “dating” purposefully, to mark a relationship that is new or in its first few years rather than a relationship that has progressed to “living together” or marriage. The word “dating” implies that you, as the non-diabetic, are in the early stages of learning about your partner’s diabetes. While there are many experiences, stories, and perspectives, a woman named Heidi shares her experience in a 2-year relationship with a man who lived with type 1 diabetes. Her experience is one of many. Be sure to read our “Non-Diabetics Guide to Helping Loved Ones with Diabetes,” too. Ginger: When you first began dating, did you know about his type 1 diabetes from the start or was it introduced at some point? Heidi: I knew from the very first date. We were up too late talking like teenagers and he realized his blood was low. He excused himself to get a glass of milk and a snack. I had known him as a friend for an entire year prior. I did not know. I don’t think he would have told me right away, but the circumstances brought it to light early on. Ginger: When you learned about his diabetes, how did you feel? Did it change anything about how you perceived him in a negative or positive way? Heidi: I felt embarrassed that I did not know or recognize the signs that his blood sugar was low. I asked him if I should have noticed. The knowledge did not change how I felt emotionally. It did make me want to be educated. Ginger: Was he open to talking about and teachi Continue reading >>

When You Love A Woman With Type 1 Diabetes

When You Love A Woman With Type 1 Diabetes

I know a lot of women with Type 1 diabetes. Some are friends, colleagues, peers and some are women, young and old, whose paths have crossed with mine at different times for different reasons. And even though each and every one of us are different in the way we view, experience and react to our Type 1 diabetes, I typically find that, when we first discover we are both meandering the snaking female Type 1 diabetes footpath, there is a collective knowing, a camaraderie that instantly bonds our lives in an inquisitive way. Often, we will immediately begin to chat like old friends and many times, we will openly begin to share intimate details with each other. We talk about the effect of our diabetes on our careers, our health, our loved ones, spouses, families and friends. For me, it’s emotionally comforting to connect with someone who really and truly gets what I’m going through. Trust me when I say that the emotional side of diabetes is a huge piece of the puzzle and if it is not taken into consideration, it can unravel all well laid diabetes plans. So if you love a woman with Type 1diabetes, maybe this blog will give you a little something to consider. Or maybe you already know everything. That being said…. Women With Type 1 Diabetes and Sexual Intimacy Ever try to enjoy sex with Type 1 diabetes while worrying about your blood sugar dropping or soaring? How about having your medical devices front and center on your body? And because of the cost, and inconvenience I might add, of a device being knocked off, I always have to consider where my devices are on my body to help avoid that scenario. And even after marriage to a man who says he doesn’t care about my devices, the thought that I will look “medicinal” to him creates vulnerability in me that I don’t like Continue reading >>

Diabetes & Dating: To Date Or Not To Date

Diabetes & Dating: To Date Or Not To Date

A question we get asked all the time: Should I date someone if I have diabetes? or Should I date someone who has diabetes? Take a look at these Diabetes & Relationship stats: Relationships are tough in this day and age. With approximately 60 percent of all marriages ending in divorce, does diabetes stack the deck against you in a committed, long-term relationship? When Dennis contacted The Diabetes Council last week, he was concerned that dating Susan with Type 1 diabetes may not a good idea. He didn’t know if he could handle her having a low blood sugar during their time together, and he worried that his own fear of needles would make him too squeamish to deal with the day-to-day aspects of diabetes care. Dennis and Susan have only been out on three dates. Dennis enjoyed his time with Susan, and wanted to see if they could have a future together. However, it was at the end of the third date when Susan informed Dennis about her diabetes. Dennis had been at a loss for words since finding out about Susan’s diagnosis. He was ashamed to say that he had not called her in three days. So what kind of advice should we give Dennis? Although we may not be in the position to give him an answer as to whether or not he should date Susan, what kind of relationship advice might be helpful in this situation? For starters, if Dennis wants to pursue a future relationship with Susan, he should ask himself just how much he cares about her, and whether or not he thinks that he is capable of supporting someone with diabetes through the long haul of life. If the answer is yes, then a diagnosis of diabetes should not preclude Dennis from pursuing a relationship with Susan. If the answer is no, then Susan is better off without Dennis. As a person with diabetes, Susan will need someone who i Continue reading >>

The Diabetic Dating Thing

The Diabetic Dating Thing

Oh dear, I am so underqualified to write this post -- seeing as how I haven't actually dated in what, 20 years or so? (Gads, that makes me feel old). But I'm going to write it anyway, because it's an important topic and I'm curious what you all think. I realize how hard it must be. A first date... a dinner. An offer of dessert? A necessary shot, or a protruding pump, an unexpected low... Even if we don't talk about it, we feel different. Because it's invisible, yet all-consuming. Lots of people have shared their angst with me... Even star triathlete Jay Hewitt told me that he kept his diabetes hidden for eight years, because he was worried the girls who might date him would run screaming from some projected lifetime of health problems. ("I was driven to prove that I was physically fit — that diabetes was not some albatross.") The other day I got an email from a guy named Joseph asking about a decent online dating network for diabetics ages 21-40. "They have fantastic groups on MySpace for diabetics... but the oldest kids in there are like 18 :)" he writes. He read my earlier post about a service called Prescription4Love, but found it not specific enough to diabetes. I'd guess many PWDs would feel the same about a new one along the same lines called Disability Love (not to mention the wheelchair in the logo, which many of us can't relate to.) Joseph shares: "I date a lot and like any other normal 31 year old have had my share of both long and short relationships... despite very deep love I shared with some of them, NO ONE (and not even family members) can understand what a diabetic deals with except another diabetic. I have found that the few diabetics I have met that are in similar situations as I am (single, young, professional, etc) choose to hide the fact that they Continue reading >>

3 Diabetes Dating Sites – A Review

3 Diabetes Dating Sites – A Review

An irreverent look at online dating for those who know their way around insulin. If you have diabetes and want to find someone else who knows a thing or two about insulin, you’ve probably found that apps like Tinder, okCupid, and Grindr just aren’t the best places to message a potential beau. Here’s a list of some online dating sites for the Type 1 romantics: Diabetic Date Diabetic Date is the most traditional website for going out with someone with Type 1. Features of the site include how-to dating articles and an “advanced wink system” (similar to poking on Facebook). When you initially sign up for the site, you can enroll in the free, basic membership. However, flirtations are limited to winking at other online singles, so no chat or messaging. If you decide to pay the $6.95 monthly fee for the premium account to message a pancreatically faulty person back, you should be warned that Diabetic Date does not offer refunds, so don’t expect to see your money again. The homepage is adorned with a slideshow of corny date jokes and tips. I don’t know that I’d trust their suggestions though; apparently, a gentleman should arrive on time, not incessantly message after a date, and not discuss his favorite sex positions. Great to know, thanks. There are quite a bit of spam warnings, and account verification simply means having a valid email, so security is questionable. And though I suggest the site designers invest in a resident proofer to correct the surplus of typographical errors, Diabetic Date ranks as the Match.com for people with diabetes. Diabetes Dating Site The services that Diabetes Dating Site offers are spelled out pretty perfectly in their title, so props for being straightforward, but my immediate concern with the website was the seemingly exclusiv Continue reading >>

Dating And Diabetes

Dating And Diabetes

Dating with diabetes is no different than dating without it Whether you find dating fun or whether it sends your nerves into a flurry, diabetes is one extra thing you may need to think about when dating but all in all it shouldn't get in the way. We run through some of things you may want to consider when making the most of your dating experience with diabetes. When do you tell your date about your diabetes? When you decide to tell your date about your diabetes will be partly influenced by your personal preference and may be influenced by your medication regime. If youre on insulin, or otherwise susceptible to hypoglycemia , its a good idea to let your date know about your diabetes early on. If youre on another medication routine then you may have more time and freedom to choose the right moment. If you inject then its a good idea to explain your need to inject at a convenient time as some people may be squeamish about needles. It may take your date a little time to get used to the idea at first but in most cases your partner will get accommodated with your injection regimes. Wed like to say, no, it doesnt matter but it can depend on how you manage diabetes and your dates own feelings towards your diabetes. Some people will naturally be more receptive to your diabetes than others. Its common for people with diabetes to worry about what their date will make of their diabetes, questions may include: How do I explain I have a lifelong condition? Will he/she worry about my health in the long run? Will he/she run a mile when I start to inject or they see my pump? In the most cases the worries are unfounded and youll tend to find that the more you can accept your own diabetes, the better the chances that your date will be able to. Diabetes can lead to ups and downs in sugar Continue reading >>

Dating & Diabetes: 10 Things You Need To Know

Dating & Diabetes: 10 Things You Need To Know

You’re out on a first date. You are kinda digging this person. You’ve had a great time together. But, instead of wondering whether to lean in for the goodnight kiss, hug, or the awkward pat on the back, you’re busy thinking about when and how you should disclose that you have diabetes. Or, maybe you are just wondering if you should do it at all. Or maybe your sugar is low and you have no choice but to explain why you sound like you are not making any sense. But, you hesitate. You wouldn’t want to scare off your new potential life partner, would you? Diabetes is 24/7. As much as it would be lovely to take some time off for date night, it isn’t going to happen. It is the annoying third wheel. Get used to it. Diabetes isn’t WHO you are, but it sure as heck is a decent sized chunk of you, and it should never be a taboo topic. The more uncomfortable you are with your diabetes, the more uncomfortable your date will be with it. Asking questions like, “Is this too weird for you?” or better yet, “Can you handle dating someone with a disease?” is not going to put anyone at ease. Anyone stressing about disclosing his or her diabetes, take heart – although there is no set rule book for sharing your diabetic life for the first time with a potential love connection, there are some tips you can follow to ensure a smooth transition from “It’s a pleasure to meet you” to “I have diabetes.” Here are 10’s DO’s for Diabetic Dating: Don’t feel like you have to tell your date at a certain time or after a certain number of dates. Instead, tell him or her when it feels right. That means you don’t need to reveal it during introductions or even on your first date, but the longer you wait, the harder it becomes. The biggest concern most people with diabetes Continue reading >>

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