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There are many superstitions about diabetes in India. Girls who are ready to marry have rejected me after listening about Diabetes. I can see difference in attitude before listening about my diabetes and after it. Worst case is that each one said clearly "no" because of Diabetes only. It really hurts me. Whats my fault in having diabetes. And the girls family's are worst after hearing about diabetes even if girl is ready to accept it, they just don't accept it. It really hurts to hear this from such people. I feel very sad about having diabetes. In fact my life is just going, I am not living life. God, When this will end??? When I can live life??? When there will be cure for Type 1 Diabetes??? I believe that if you scratch the surface not too hard here in the USA you'll find much the same thing. There are people of marrying age who don't want their potential partner to have a serious illness due to the chance that their offspring may develop the illness down the road. It is not only limited to diabetes. My 2nd wife "Jem" (now deceased) had been totally blind at 14, developed Lupis (SLE) as well as T1 and congestive heart failure (CHF) as well as several other "medical challenges".. She had been engaged twice and both times the guy backed out. And then another b/f didn't want to commit to her. I can't be sure (cause I didn't know Jem at the time) but I strongly suspect that her "defects" had something to do with those guys backing out of the engagements to her. (the 3rd guy, from what Jem told me of him was simply a jerk). Since we had met in our 50s we were past the childbearing years, (plus I was "snipped" anyway at my 1st wife's insistance) so bringing children into the world was not an option. I met Jem on a dating website called Dating4Disabled, and we were both up Continue reading >>
Wedding Blues For Youth With Diabetes
A 26-year-old city woman struggled to find a suitable life partner, because every time she disclosed she had Type 1 diabetes, the marriage proposal would be rejected. AURANGABAD: A 26-year-old city woman struggled to find a suitable life partner, because every time she disclosed she had Type 1 diabetes , the marriage proposal would be rejected. Married last year, her partner valued that she had disclosed her medical condition. "Some youth with Type 1 diabetes get into a compromised marriage with some negotiation. Very few find a rational partner, who accepts them with diabetes," she said. According to the World Health Organisation , Type 1 diabetes results from the body's failure to produce insulin and was previously called to as 'insulin-dependent diabetes mellitus' (IDDM) or 'juvenile diabetes'. Interestingly, a matrimony agency has set up a centre in Delhi for Type 1 diabetics, who find it difficult to find partners. Physician Aniket Inamdar said that a survey was conducted in India in 2006 on marriage-related problems among diabetics. Of the 2,000 respondents in age group of 19 to 31 years, finding a suitable life partner was among the most common concern, he said. An investigation was carried out by expert Ahlfield JE, Soler NG, Marcus SD on the impact of insulin-dependent diabetes mellitus on marriage and having children a study on 50 young adults (aged 20-35 yr) with onset of the disease less than 20 year was done. None of the young adults in the study had made a conscious decision to remain unmarried, but 14 of 50 had decided not to have children. Both men and women with diabetes found that the disease had an impact on certain aspects of their marital life, at times leading to friction and causing a financial burden, said Vivek Tadwalkar, senior physician and h Continue reading >>
Diabetic Matrimonial
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Marrying Into Diabetes: A Husband’s Perspective
I am married to a beautiful woman with type 1 diabetes. On many days, diabetes has churned the waters in our relationship. I’ve argued with low blood sugars and lost. What woman can be responsible for being snippy when her blood sugar’s at 35 mg/dl (2 mmol/L)? I’ve watched date night get canceled by an all day high. My empathy for Elizabeth is spiked with a little anger. But how can I talk about my frustration at diabetes when it’s a trifle next to the boulder that Elizabeth carries? These feelings sit inside me. They fester. I try to be strong. On difficult days, frustration boils over. Other times I don’t know what to say. I lie there in bed while she has low blood sugar and struggles. I see how much it’s hurting her, how hard it is for her, how bad she feels. I want her to know that I see it, and it tears me up, and I wish there was a way I could share that burden. But instead I say I’m sorry. The last thing she wants is pity. I’ve learned a lot about diabetes helping develop Diabetes Daily over the last six years. Yet when it comes to my own relationship with the most important person in my life, I still get it wrong too often. The challenges faced by those who care about someone with diabetes are rarely discussed. It ends up hurting both the person with diabetes and the person without it. So this year, let’s start a dialogue about ways that people with diabetes and their loved ones can support each other better. I invite any loved ones who would like to talk about their experiences to get in touch or to write about it on your own site and share a link. I also encourage couples to attend the 2012 National DiabetesSisters Conference in Raleigh, NC this May. There will be a session specifically for those without diabetes to talk about issues like thi Continue reading >>
Should I Marry With A Girl Having Diabetes Type 1 ?
Should I marry with a girl having diabetes type 1 ? Registration is fast, simple and absolutely free so please,join our community todayto contribute and support the site. This topic is now archived and is closed to further replies. Should I marry with a girl having diabetes type 1 ? I am new to this forum. I am living with diabetes type 1 and my age is 24 years. My parents are worrying about my marriage. I know a girl having similar kind of problem (having type 1 diabetes). So my question is whether i should marry with her or not ? Is there any future complications ? If we marry now and in future we have a baby, will it be with diabetes type 1 ? What is the possibilities of it ? What kind of other problems may arise in our marriage life because of diabetes type 1? It will be very much beneficial for both of us if we marry with each other. But this is only problem we are facing. If it is not a proper forum for this question, please tell me which forum is suitable for this question. Well this is a very intimate and personal question you are asking on an anonymous online support forum. No one can possibly tell you what to do with your life. It's up to you. The only thing I'd say is this. If I had a fiance who was asking the question of whether he should marry me on the net, I'd have to seriously ponder whether I'd still want to go ahead with it. Have you ever considered how hurt your fiance would be if she discovered your post? Every culture, every tribe, every community, every religion...has its idea of what marriage should be about. What works best from what I've seen is being married to your best friend and being in love. That takes time to build and seems to conquer just about anything that's thrown at the marriage. Once that base is there...doesn't really matter who Continue reading >>
Love Is Sweet, But India's Diabetics Struggle To Find A Life Partner
Love is sweet, but India's diabetics struggle to find a life partner Prejudice against people suffering from diabetes in India meant diabetes specialist Dr Anil Kumar Jhingan found himself setting up a service to reconcile parents fearful that their offspring wanted to marry a diabetic, and even starting a diabetics' dating agency. Dr Ashok Kumar Jhingan, diabetologist, at his clinic in Rajouri Garden, New Delhi. NEW DELHI // Squeezed between the busy bylanes and shops overflowing with colourful Indian wedding garments in the Rajouri Garden market, is a sparse clinic with a desk, two bookshelves stacked high with trophies and books, and a patient's bed. The waiting room outside is twice the size of the cubicle, filled with nervous medical representatives and patients who are here to see Dr Anil Kumar Jhingan, a diabetes specialist. The doctor, 62, waits patiently for an elderly woman who rifles through her tattered phone book, trying to locate his phone number. He gives it to her again. As usual, it is an hour past closing time in the afternoon when he takes a break to go home for lunch. In addition to the salesmen hawking the latest medical goods, there are others who wait to see him for more personal matters. For Dr Jhingan is also a matchmaker, offering advice and counselling to patients and families who are afraid their children will never wed, or if they do, the discrimination they face will end a marriage. Matrimony is big business in India. Yet for those with diabetes, it is a challenging alliance to make. "The basic factor is myths surrounding diabetes," Dr Jhingan said. "That a diabetic cannot produce a child, will not live long, cannot have a normal life. In India, people don't come forward because of this and because their biggest fear is that their children Continue reading >>
Does Having Diabetes Impact Your Marriage?
Does Having Diabetes Impact Your Marriage? Does Having Diabetes Impact Your Marriage? By DiabeticParents Latest Reply2013-06-28 15:13:51 -0500 Do you think that having diabetes has an impact on your marriage? An article in Diabetes Care talks about a study that was performed on 50 adults ages 20-35. 37 women and 13 men were studied. Of those, 17 were single, 26 were married, and 7 were seperated or divorced. 22 spouses of the 26 married diabetic parents were also studied. Each person was given a set of 35 questions separately and asked to answer. * 0 adults studied made a decision to stay unmarried due to their disease * 14 of the 50 studied had decided not to have children * Those who were diagnosed with diabetes before the age of 9 had a significantly higher rate of marriage than those who were diagnosed later. * Those diagnosed after age 13 were most likely to choose to remain childless What were the most surprising results of the study? Almost everyone studied stated that diabetes played a role in their life and caused friction and financial burdens in their marriage at times. However, the surprising part was that spouses were most often the supportive ones while diabetics and their spouses disagreed as to how much of an impact the disease had on family activities and finances. The spouses often felt that it had a bigger impact on those aspects of their lives than their diabetic spouses. I would have to say the findings are pretty consistentat least for my husband and I. Diagnosed at 4 with Type 1, we have children. We also disagree on how much of an impact diabetes has on our marriage. But it's very rare that it has a major impact on our marriage. His lows or highs can be tough when I'm left to take care of children and clean up while he sleeps. I also find that p Continue reading >>
Diabeticmatrimony.com - Matrimonial Website For The Diabetic
Type I diabetes is caused by the destruction of beta cells in the pancreas, which produces insulin. This is different from Type II diabetes, which is linked to a sedentary lifestyle and unhealthy eating habits. DiabeticMatrimony.com aims to provide Services of Matrimony, Awareness about diabetes and a lot of things for people who have diabetes. According to Dr. A. K. Jhingan, Chairperson, DDRC and founder of DiabeticMatrimony.com, there is a fear that diabetes-affected persons cannot have normal and healthy children. In fact, more often than not, diabetic men chose to remain silent about their disease before entering matrimony. Jhingan says what was most worrisome was the lack of sufficient knowledge about the disease. "The social implications of diabetes for the Indian subcontinent need special attention because of the regions prevalent culture of arranged marriages where families do not enquire about the prospective bride or grooms genetic history. This is compounded by a lack of awareness on diabetes," he says. The problem - which is especially acute in India, Sri Lanka, Pakistan and Bangladesh - can only be addressed through a mass movement, focused health campaigns and private and public sector involvement. Continue reading >>
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The Effects Of Diabetes On Relationships
Will you leave your SO (significant other) because of diabetes? Committed relationships are hard enough. When you add a chronic illness into the mix of everyday problems, it can place undue stress on a relationship. Do you leave your spouse or partner with diabetes when the going gets tough, or do you stick it out and work together to solve problems that come up, “in sickness and in health?” These are questions you may be asking yourself if you have been going through a tough time in your relationship or marriage due to diabetes. If your partner is in a state of denial and they are refusing to participate in self-care activities or listen to their doctor, this can be quite frustrating. You may be getting burnt out from always trying to fix the right amount of carbohydrates, only to catch your other half in the back room hiding with a box of candy. Feeling like you are the “diabetes police” and always nagging drains the joy out of your relationship. The spouse of a diabetic can feel a loss of control over the future, and be afraid that they will lose their life partner. Conversely, if you are the diabetic in the match, you tend to get quite aggravated with all of the nagging and “sugar-shaming” that can be going on. Maybe your partner didn’t support you by attending diabetes education classes, and now she doesn’t seem to know that it’s ok for you to have an occasional treat. Maybe she doesn’t realize that you are having the extra carbohydrates, but you have a walk planned for after the meal. Sometimes you feel misunderstood. It’s true that diabetes can take a physical, mental and financial toll on a relationship. Remember that your overbearing and controlling partner is acting from a place of genuine caring and concern for you. Now let’s look at t Continue reading >>
Is It Safe To Marry Diabetic Women?
Thank you for the A2A on the question, "Is it safe to marry [a] diabetic [woman]?" In a word, No. And I apologize for my brashness but what I mean is, not for you. There is nothing in your question to identify your age so I am going to assume you are younger, in which case the type of diabetic you are most likely to consider marrying is Type 1. As has already been mentioned, diabetes is not contagious. So you are "safe" from the person you are considering as a partner. Type 1 Diabetes appears to have a genetic connection (Genetics of Type 1 Diabetes). If you marry a diabetic and then have children, there is an increased chance of your children also developing diabetes. From time to time, the blood sugar levels of Type 1 Diabetics fall out of the safe range and become either too high or too low. As a spouse yourself, you would need to know how to recognize and treat these conditions if your wife for some reason is unable to treat them herself. There can be complications from diabetes and these ultimately could end in death. This would be emotionally difficult for you and would be incredibly hard on any children you may have had, whether those children had diabetes or not. I could go on but none of that even matters. When one spouse has diabetes, the other spouse has to live with it. That is what marriage is about. You, the non-diabetic, need to be supportive to your wife. Maybe she has decided to follow a restricted diet. As a good spouse, guess what you are going to be eating, at least any time you are at home? She is going to need insulin, syringes or an insulin pump, a glucose meter and testing strips. Every day. Depending on the type of healthcare coverage that is available to you, this could be expensive. She also will need to go to the doctor regularly. Paying for Continue reading >>
Type 1 Diabetics Need Pre-marriage Counselling
Type 1 diabetics need pre-marriage counselling Counselling and guidance are necessary to provide youth with Type 1 Diabetes with the confidence that a good marital life is indeed possible for them, according to a study conducted at the M.V.Hospital for Diabetes and Prof. M.Viswanathan Diabetes Research Centre, Royapuram. The study showed that all the female participants with Type 1 Diabetes and 82 per cent of male participants were worried about getting married. About 86 per cent of women and 56 per cent of men in the study group felt they will not be able to fulfil their partner's expectations. When it came to enjoying a good sex life, 90 per cent of the males and 56 per cent of female participants had the perception that they would not be able to perform. All the female participants and 72 per cent of males felt they could not have healthy children, and that their offspring would also be diabetic. Type 1 Diabetes is the most challenging disorder for children. They are mostly diagnosed between 5 and 15 years, and in rare instances, even in the first year after birth, Vijay Viswanathan, MD, MV Hosptial for Diabetes, explains. They have to be off sweets and on insulin shots right through. The condition can be very traumatic, not only for the child, but also for the family. The study was executed through a questionnaire that sought to test the emotional well-being, concepts of marriage and conception among the participants. Most participants had lived with diabetes for a minimum of 10 years, and were of marriageable age. In many instances, their self-esteem was really low. This reflects on their impressions of marriage and procreation as well, Dr. Viswanathan adds. While men with Type 1 Diabetes believe that they are sure to have erectile dysfunction, women are afraid th Continue reading >>
No More Marriage Blues For Diabetic Youngsters In India
No more marriage blues for diabetic youngsters in India Dr Yash Patel (addressing) says that diabetics looking for a spouse have to make comprises. (Supplied) By Mahesh Trivedi Special to Al Arabiya English Wednesday, 29 November 2017 Youngsters among Indias 70 million down-hearted diabetics longing for a life partner can now heave a sigh of relief. Ahmedabad, Gujarats largest city that is fast turning into a medical tourism hub, boasts the countrys first marriage bureau dedicated to twenty-somethings suffering from the incurable metabolic disorder. Award-winning diabetologist Dr Mayur Patels help center called Make My Life will be a boon for thousands of youths of marriageable age with high blood sugar levels. Indeed, Dr Patel, who is also the chairman of the All-India institute of Diabetes and Research, has launched the novel marriage bureau with the help of well-known matchmaker Sangita Patel to change the mindset of people toward the chronic condition. Worried parents at Sangita Patels special marriage bureau for diabetics. (Supplied) According to him, families in India nicknamed worlds diabetes capital are opposed to marriage with a person who has to take multiple injections of insulin, be careful of the diet and lifestyle daily to manage fluctuating sugar levels, and run the risk of developing complications. Type 1 diabetic youngsters, especially girls, are severely discriminated against when it comes to marriage. But all the problems faced by them are easily manageable, says Dr Patel, who has been doing a yeomans service for hapless diabetics for the past 30 years having treated some 250,000 patients. Sangita, who offers her services gratis, said: When Type 1 diabetics fail to find a bride or groom, they suffer from depression, anger and frustration which again Continue reading >>
When You Love A Woman With Type 1 Diabetes
I know a lot of women with Type 1 diabetes. Some are friends, colleagues, peers and some are women, young and old, whose paths have crossed with mine at different times for different reasons. And even though each and every one of us are different in the way we view, experience and react to our Type 1 diabetes, I typically find that, when we first discover we are both meandering the snaking female Type 1 diabetes footpath, there is a collective knowing, a camaraderie that instantly bonds our lives in an inquisitive way. Often, we will immediately begin to chat like old friends and many times, we will openly begin to share intimate details with each other. We talk about the effect of our diabetes on our careers, our health, our loved ones, spouses, families and friends. For me, it’s emotionally comforting to connect with someone who really and truly gets what I’m going through. Trust me when I say that the emotional side of diabetes is a huge piece of the puzzle and if it is not taken into consideration, it can unravel all well laid diabetes plans. So if you love a woman with Type 1diabetes, maybe this blog will give you a little something to consider. Or maybe you already know everything. That being said…. Women With Type 1 Diabetes and Sexual Intimacy Ever try to enjoy sex with Type 1 diabetes while worrying about your blood sugar dropping or soaring? How about having your medical devices front and center on your body? And because of the cost, and inconvenience I might add, of a device being knocked off, I always have to consider where my devices are on my body to help avoid that scenario. And even after marriage to a man who says he doesn’t care about my devices, the thought that I will look “medicinal” to him creates vulnerability in me that I don’t like Continue reading >>
10 Things We Women With Diabetes Want You To Know
While we're on the topic of women with diabetes this week, who hasn't yet heard of the Girl's Guide to Diabetes? It's a must-visit for all us super-sweet females, run by type 1 sisters Sysy and Ana Morales. Sysy is a great DOC friend, frequent commenter here at the 'Mine, a wife, mother of twin toddlers, diabetes advocate, and a freelance writer. We are delighted to feature her take here today on a girls' view of good diabetes support: A Guest Post by Sysy Morales By having twins as a type 1 diabetic two months before my husband and I even celebrated our first wedding anniversary, I was able to discover early on that I had a guy who would be respectful and loving no matter how tough life got. I am very lucky. This doesn't mean I didn't have to constantly communicate with him about my diabetes, however. I couldn't just expect him to be insightful about my feelings regarding aspects of my diabetes without any explanation.... Why, the man has never even had a headache! Aside from thinking over my own relationship, I've been getting a lot of emails from guys wanting information about "dating a diabetic girl." If you happen to be one of these men, or you're already in a relationship with a woman with diabetes, this post is for you! Ladies, definitely post any additions or different opinions you have in the comments section. We're all unique and I would expect some of this to vary. For the guy in a relationship with a girl who has diabetes, here are 10 things we want you to know: 1. Recognize that your girl might be very emotional about her illness. Sometimes she needs you to listen to her rant. Let her. Most likely she doesn't need you to solve a problem. The thing I loved most about my husband while we dated was his willingness to listen. Now, if you have to force yourself Continue reading >>
5 Tips For A Happier Marriage With Diabetes
5 Tips for a Happier Marriage With Diabetes After you bolus for your wedding cake, heres what you need to know It has been said that the first year of marriage is often the hardest. Learning to live as a pair and work as a team when diabetes is in the picture often requires some adjustments, even for the longest-term couples. Here are some expert tips: After planning a wedding and celebrating the big day, then coming back down to Earth, you may find that you have neglected parts of your relationship. Starting off as a married couple means investing in togethernesseven when it comes to tackling diabetes. We know from research looking at mismatched couples, where one has a disease and one doesnt, if both have a mind frame that were in it together, they have better outcomes [and] marriage satisfaction, says Tai Mendenhall, PhD, LMFT, who specializes in medical family therapy at the University of Minnesota. When one partner is removed from the others disease management, it can get in the way of a team approach and healthy relationship. Your partner should not be left in the dark about your diabetes management. Anne Safran Dalin, 63, of Hillsborough, New Jersey, has been married to her husband, Jim, for 41 years. She was diagnosed with prediabetes in 2005 and now manages her type2 diabetes by following a healthy diet. Its up to the [person with diabetes] to educate their partner in the care of their health, Dalin says, noting that Jim commits to eating healthy meals with her. If a partner is willing to attend an educational program or [a] session with a diabetes counselor, that would be a huge step forward for the couple. Sarah Mart, 45, of Fort Collins, Colorado, has been living with type1 diabetes since she was 7 years old. Her wife, Anne Kirven, doesnt have diabetes, so Continue reading >>
