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Dating A Man With Type 1 Diabetes

When You Love A Woman With Type 1 Diabetes

When You Love A Woman With Type 1 Diabetes

I know a lot of women with Type 1 diabetes. Some are friends, colleagues, peers and some are women, young and old, whose paths have crossed with mine at different times for different reasons. And even though each and every one of us are different in the way we view, experience and react to our Type 1 diabetes, I typically find that, when we first discover we are both meandering the snaking female Type 1 diabetes footpath, there is a collective knowing, a camaraderie that instantly bonds our lives in an inquisitive way. Often, we will immediately begin to chat like old friends and many times, we will openly begin to share intimate details with each other. We talk about the effect of our diabetes on our careers, our health, our loved ones, spouses, families and friends. For me, it’s emotionally comforting to connect with someone who really and truly gets what I’m going through. Trust me when I say that the emotional side of diabetes is a huge piece of the puzzle and if it is not taken into consideration, it can unravel all well laid diabetes plans. So if you love a woman with Type 1diabetes, maybe this blog will give you a little something to consider. Or maybe you already know everything. That being said…. Women With Type 1 Diabetes and Sexual Intimacy Ever try to enjoy sex with Type 1 diabetes while worrying about your blood sugar dropping or soaring? How about having your medical devices front and center on your body? And because of the cost, and inconvenience I might add, of a device being knocked off, I always have to consider where my devices are on my body to help avoid that scenario. And even after marriage to a man who says he doesn’t care about my devices, the thought that I will look “medicinal” to him creates vulnerability in me that I don’t like Continue reading >>

This Is What Its Like To Date When You Have An Invisible Disease

This Is What Its Like To Date When You Have An Invisible Disease

This Is What Its Like to Date When You Have an Invisible Disease So youre kind of like a cyborg, right? This year, I celebrated my 10-year anniversary with type 1 diabetes . Its a lifelong condition that requires insulin treatment and wearing a pump on my hip or stomach. It's led to some humorous misunderstandings over the past decadelike when I tell people, Yeah, Im high right now, and I really mean that I have high blood sugar. (Funny, right?) Heres the thing: You wouldnt know I was sick by looking at me. So when it comes to dating, I like to tell potential BFs about my diabetes early to minimize their surprise (and my anxiety over it, too). When I whip out a lancet (a tiny device I use to prick my finger for blood sugar tests) during a candlelit dinner, I like to offer a simple explanation to my date. Ive come to find that most often, hes curious to hear about it. That being said, I havent always been so confident. RELATED: 4 Women Share What Its Like to Live with an Invisible' Disease Case in point: my first date . I was a freshman in high school, and a senior I had a crush on asked me to dinner. He knew I was diabetic, but when my sweet potato enchiladas arrived, I didnt check my blood sugar or take any insulin because I was too embarrassed to do it in front of him. My blood sugar ended up getting super high, and I got really tired, headache-y, and just felt totally out of it. Needless to say, that date didn't go well. But experiences like this one made me realize that my wellbeing trumps feeling cool. That prompted me to be more open with guys I dated. So two years ago, when I found myself in a scary situation, I did what I needed to do. I was sleeping over at a guys place , and my blood sugar dipped dangerously low at 2 a.m. I nearly fell off of his bed because Continue reading >>

Dating A Person With Type 1 Diabetes

Dating A Person With Type 1 Diabetes

Dating a person with type 1 diabetes brings some very unique challenges to any relationship. Of course, simply being the diabetic and dating can be difficult for some, but this article is for those non-diabetics who find themselves attracted to someone who just happens to also live with this disease. I use the word “dating” purposefully, to mark a relationship that is new or in its first few years rather than a relationship that has progressed to “living together” or marriage. The word “dating” implies that you, as the non-diabetic, are in the early stages of learning about your partner’s diabetes. While there are many experiences, stories, and perspectives, a woman named Heidi shares her experience in a 2-year relationship with a man who lived with type 1 diabetes. Her experience is one of many. Be sure to read our “Non-Diabetics Guide to Helping Loved Ones with Diabetes,” too. Ginger: When you first began dating, did you know about his type 1 diabetes from the start or was it introduced at some point? Heidi: I knew from the very first date. We were up too late talking like teenagers and he realized his blood was low. He excused himself to get a glass of milk and a snack. I had known him as a friend for an entire year prior. I did not know. I don’t think he would have told me right away, but the circumstances brought it to light early on. Ginger: When you learned about his diabetes, how did you feel? Did it change anything about how you perceived him in a negative or positive way? Heidi: I felt embarrassed that I did not know or recognize the signs that his blood sugar was low. I asked him if I should have noticed. The knowledge did not change how I felt emotionally. It did make me want to be educated. Ginger: Was he open to talking about and teachi Continue reading >>

Dating With Type 1 Diabetes

Dating With Type 1 Diabetes

When Tia Deverts told her family that her then-boyfriend, Jim Pettit, had been diagnosed with type 1 diabetes, they asked, "Are you going to continue to date him?" She replied, "Of course. Why wouldn't I?" Pettit, now 26, was diagnosed with type 1 diabetes a few months after he turned 21. By then, he and Deverts had been dating for two years. He wasn't at all surprised by her reaction. "She was completely fine with dating someone with diabetes," Jim says. They married in September 2012, and make their home in Arlington, Va. Sysy Morales, 29, of Roanoke, Va., was diagnosed with type 1 diabetes when she was 11. Like the Pettits, her story of dating with diabetes has a happy ending: She's been married to Alex Munoz for four years, and they have 3-year-old twins, a boy and a girl. Others, however, say that dating with diabetes isn't always easy. In her blog, "The Girl's Guide to Diabetes," Morales writes that a lot of that difficulty may be in your head. When you have type 1 diabetes, for instance, you're afraid that a love interest won't see you as sexy, especially if you have an insulin pump attached to your body. Dating With Diabetes: True Confessions The biggest issue for those with diabetes is often when to tell the person they're dating about their disease. On the first date? Only after it looks like your relationship may be going somewhere? Before you're about to walk down the aisle? Morales says it wasn't an issue for her. She'd known Munoz since they were in middle school, and though they didn't actually start dating until after college, he already knew she had type 1 diabetes. When they were just friends, Morales says, Munoz didn't really know what living with diabetes was like. When they started dating, she says, he wanted to know all that he could and took it up Continue reading >>

Dating With Diabetes... Might Mean Kissing A Few Frogs

Dating With Diabetes... Might Mean Kissing A Few Frogs

Just in time for Valentine's Day tomorrow, we've got some insight to share about dating and diabetes. Not from Mike and myself, of course, since we've both been married to our respective partners for many years now, but we asked our newest team member, twenty-something Cait Patterson, to offer some personal insight on the topic of the "mating dance": What's it like being out there these days, especially with diabetes in the mix? (You may remember that last month, Cait shared her story about being diagnosed a few years ago when she was just starting college at age 18, and also being hit with celiac disease at the same time.) Special to the 'Mine by Cait Patterson Being diagnosed in college and trying to figure out my new life with diabetes while meeting new people was tough. But multiply that awkwardness times 10, and you pretty much can get an idea of what my college dating life is like. When first diagnosed, I would hop into relationships thinking that I'd tell the lucky young lad about my diabetes, and he would automatically spring into superman mode, be a partner in my management and diabetes would be all better. Well, no, it doesn't usually work that way. During that first year, I would start dating a guy, abruptly bring up my diabetes, and then it would suddenly feel like an awkwardly taboo topic. If I didn't get much of a response, I would hound the poor guy with questions: "Are you OK that I have diabetes? Are you okay with me taking shots? Does this freak you out?" And so on. In accordance with almost every social psychology concept in the book, the more uncomfortably I presented my life with diabetes, the more uncomfortable my date was with it. Most, if not all of these men, had never been aware of what a person with type 1 diabetes deals with everyday. And as Continue reading >>

Diabetes & Dating: To Date Or Not To Date

Diabetes & Dating: To Date Or Not To Date

A question we get asked all the time: Should I date someone if I have diabetes? or Should I date someone who has diabetes? Take a look at these Diabetes & Relationship stats: Relationships are tough in this day and age. With approximately 60 percent of all marriages ending in divorce, does diabetes stack the deck against you in a committed, long-term relationship? When Dennis contacted The Diabetes Council last week, he was concerned that dating Susan with Type 1 diabetes may not a good idea. He didn’t know if he could handle her having a low blood sugar during their time together, and he worried that his own fear of needles would make him too squeamish to deal with the day-to-day aspects of diabetes care. Dennis and Susan have only been out on three dates. Dennis enjoyed his time with Susan, and wanted to see if they could have a future together. However, it was at the end of the third date when Susan informed Dennis about her diabetes. Dennis had been at a loss for words since finding out about Susan’s diagnosis. He was ashamed to say that he had not called her in three days. So what kind of advice should we give Dennis? Although we may not be in the position to give him an answer as to whether or not he should date Susan, what kind of relationship advice might be helpful in this situation? For starters, if Dennis wants to pursue a future relationship with Susan, he should ask himself just how much he cares about her, and whether or not he thinks that he is capable of supporting someone with diabetes through the long haul of life. If the answer is yes, then a diagnosis of diabetes should not preclude Dennis from pursuing a relationship with Susan. If the answer is no, then Susan is better off without Dennis. As a person with diabetes, Susan will need someone who i Continue reading >>

What Is It Like Dating A Type 1 Diabetic Man?

What Is It Like Dating A Type 1 Diabetic Man?

I've not dated another T1 diabetic, but I was diagnosed with T1 at 13, so I've had a variety of relationships. Of course dating a T1 isn't the same as dating people without. We have lots of specific needs. Those needs can be overwhelming to someone without any first hand experience. However, diabetes is part of you and a constant thing in your life. There are ups and downs (far beyond blood glucose readings) and it can seem really scary to those lucky enough not to be experiencing it themselves or to someone they love. When a relationship is still in early days, they need to know what to do should you show symptoms of a low or high, but they also don't need to step in to learn all of the ins and outs. There will be times that your diabetes might call for a slight change in plans, and if they take issue with that they don't deserve to be in your life. Don't try to hide your diabetes from anyone. It's not in any way your fault or a reflection on you as a person. Let dates ask questions if they want to. People are generally very uninformed. A bit of education can do wonders. Be matter of fact with them. Remind them that you take care of yourself, and that it isn't like they'll need to do much other than grabbing you a sugary drink or a low every now and then - unless, of course, they want to take a more active role as the relationship progresses! I have experienced bad reactions from people when they find out I'm T1. It hurts, but eventually you know that you're far better off without them. It's an absolute shit reason for someone to treat you badly. THAT is a reflection on their overall character. My partner and I have been together for 2.5 years and he chooses to be very involved with my care. He doesn't miss doctors appointments, he knows how to take a BG reading and gi Continue reading >>

The Boyfriend/girlfriend Guide To Caring For Someone With Type 1

The Boyfriend/girlfriend Guide To Caring For Someone With Type 1

Congratulations! You’re dating someone amazing, funny, beautiful and strong, who also has Type 1. If you are feeling overwhelmed or worried, there is no need. Here are tips that can help you take care of your significant other and the essentials in diabetes care that are a must-know! Insulin! Our bodies do not make insulin. We need insulin to process food that we are eating. Therefore, we can use either the pump or injections via a pen and a needle to administer the insulin. Learn more about insulin delivery methods. Devices The monitors that are attached to our skin are not a smoking patch, a pager, or a prop! These monitors help us stay healthy. One of these monitors is a CGM, or continuous glucose monitor. This small device tracks our glucose day and night, and notifies us of highs and lows. The other monitor is an insulin pump. An insulin pump gives our body insulin throughout the day and during meals through the flexible plastic tube. Extra baggage And we aren’t talking about exes! We will usually always carry a few items with us wherever we go. These things help us get through the day healthy and safe. Here are a few things you can familiarize yourself with. Blood glucose meter, test strips, and a lancing device. In other words, the small device that shows us what our blood sugar is, the test strip that goes into the device, and the pricker that we use on our finger to get a drop of blood onto the test strip. Check out The Daily-diabetes Care Kit. Fast-acting sugar that we will take in case we have a low. This could be anything from glucose tablets (which strongly resemble SweetTarts), candy, or juice boxes. Depending on the type of bionic pancreas that we have, we either carry pens and pen needles or supplies for a pump. Daily care We might have to check our Continue reading >>

Dating A Man With Diabetes: An Editorial

Dating A Man With Diabetes: An Editorial

Dating a Man with Diabetes: An Editorial Recently, I dated a Daniel Craig look-a-like. This attractive Chicagoan had incredibly expressive blue eyes and long eyelashes women would envy. He was a swimmer and didnt have an ounce of body fat. When we first met, he seemed like any other normal guy. However, there was something very different and special about him. This 30-something suffered from type 1 diabetes which is also known as juvenile diabetes. Our romance educated me about diabetes and provided me with a plethora of information about dating someone with diabetes. Some of these helpful tips were featured in dLifes story Support Your Loved One with Diabetes. Ask your significant other what you should do in case of an emergency. Ask them for emergency phone numbers (doctors phone numbers, local hospital, pharmacy, insurance, etc.) and an emergency contact phone number. Post these important phone numbers near their landline and add them into your cell phone. Also, ask about their medication. Find out the type of medication they are taking and where they store their medication. If your loved one suffers from fatigue due to diabetes, allow them the rest they need to recharge their batteries. Read up and learn about your loved ones illness. If possible attend one of their doctors appointments or an appointment with their diabetes educator. Learn about their glucose readings and their glucose reading device. For example, the gentleman I dated tested his blood sugar before and after his meals. Hed casually take out his glucose monitor, prick his finger and wait for his reading. Because we avoided the bars, we filled our days with activities. We worked out together, walked everywhere and attended baseball games. Also, we attended oodles of summer music and art festivals. In Continue reading >>

Diabetes And Relationships: My Man, His Insulin Pen, And I

Diabetes And Relationships: My Man, His Insulin Pen, And I

I remember our first date. He showed up at my place clutching a bag of pretzels and a 2 liter bottle of Coke Light. “Coke Light?” I thought to myself – now here’s a man after my own heart! We settled on the sofa to watch one of two movies – his favourite (Old School) and my favourite (Kill Bill), munching and sipping away at the sugar-free drink. There was chemistry, that’s for sure. I remember focusing more on the proximity of his body to mine than on the scenes playing off on the box in front of us! Between movies we decided to head across the road for a pizza and a glass of wine. And it was during this break in our movie date that he made the disclosure, “I have Type 1 diabetes.” I can’t really say that my world stopped or that my dreams caved in. Growing up one of my good friends lived with Type 1 and, while I can’t say that I knew much about it, I had the basic information and knew that it was definitely no death sentence. Also, he was so casual about it, explaining as he administered his insulin shot at the table why he had to take insulin, how it brought down his blood glucose levels and giving me the background. My heart ached for the three-year-old version of himself that received this diagnosis. But at this point, my 25-year old date was cool, calm, and collected about his ‘condition’. We went back to my place, watched the second movie and he kissed me goodbye at the door on his way home. My knees were wobbly. Fast forward a couple of dates and I had my first real diabetes-related worry. Wrapped in the throes of early romance my man was perfect – in every imaginable way. (He still is, but eight years later it’s a different kind of adoration – you know what I mean!). We were hanging out somewhere when I all of a sudden realised tha Continue reading >>

Loving Someone With Type 1 Diabetes

Loving Someone With Type 1 Diabetes

By kelley on April 29, 2016 in health , Marriage and Relationships , Mom Resources When I first started dating my husband I didnt even really know what the term blood sugar meant. I certainly didnt know what was considered a normal blood sugar range (which is around 80-120). And I had no idea that my life would soon revolve around these numbers. Type 1 diabetes wasnt even in my vocabulary. I thought there was just one type of diabetes, the kind that can be controlled with diet and exercise ( Type 2 diabetes ) Most of all, I had no idea Type 1 diabetes was life threatening. My husband and I had only been dating a few weeks when I had to make the frantic 911 call. I had no idea that my husband had Type 1 diabetes. We were newly dating and I wasnt privied to this personal information yet. Because of my husbands private nature and my navet, my husband fell into a diabetic coma before my very eyes.We werent partying. Not in the excessive drinking context. In fact, we werent drinking at all. Just wasnt our style. We had just watched the fireworks in Boston and had barbecued all day with his old crew team. At the end of the night we were talking at his house when his speech became slurred and very disorganized. Then what seemed like only minutes later, he became unresponsive. Luckily, his identical twin brother was still in the house and I ran to his room and told him that something was wrong with his brother. This is when I became glaringly aware of the depths of Type 1 diabetes. All I could do was watch as his brother frantically tried to force juice and sugar tablets down his throat. But Taylor was too far gone. His blood sugar was so low it didnt even register on the glucose meter. I called 911 and paramedics arrived seemingly quickly and gave him a glucagon shot. Within Continue reading >>

7 Stories On Love, Sex, And Type 1 Diabetes

7 Stories On Love, Sex, And Type 1 Diabetes

We’ve assembled our favorite romance-themed stories over the years. People with Type 1 diabetes can have unique love lives. Blood sugar management provides an early opportunity to test how supportive potential partners can be. And if a relationship survives that stress test, it’s up to the person with diabetes and his/her partner to learn how to communicate through all the daily highs and lows. For everyone affected by Type 1 diabetes who has a romantic streak, we’ve assembled our favorite stories on love, sex, dating, and blood sugar management: A Love Letter During a Blood Sugar Swing A man describes the difficulties of communicating with his love during highs and lows. 7 Tips to a Better Type 1 Sex Life Ideas for how to keep your blood sugar numbers level when horizontal. 3 Diabetes Dating Sites – A Review We’ve braved these sites so you don’t necessarily have to. Let’s Talk About Sexual Dysfunction and Type 1 Sexual dysfunction from diabetes often can be reversed if caught in time. 3 Tips for Navigating T1D in Marriage A diabetes psychologist shares his secrets. What it’s Like to Date Someone Else with Type 1 Weighing the pros and cons of having a partner who also lacks a working pancreas. Discovering Love and T1D at a Ballgame When the first bloom of love and the first bloom of diabetes coincide. Thanks for reading this Insulin Nation article. Want more Type 1 news? Subscribe here. Have Type 2 diabetes or know someone who does? Try Type2Nation. Continue reading >>

What To Expect When Dating A Person With Type 1 Diabetes

What To Expect When Dating A Person With Type 1 Diabetes

Type 1 diabetes is an illness which is not easy to manage and it influences practically everything in life. When someone starts dating a person with type 1 diabetes, there might be some things that are good to know. Firstly, you should know the basics of type 1 diabetes. The internet has tons of very good information available. Here is a nice fact sheet about type 1 diabetes from Juvenile Diabetes Research Foundation (JDRF). The symptoms of hypos and hypers differ amongst diabetics Now that you know the cold facts, you should know that every person with type 1 diabetes is unique. Exercise raises someone’s BG levels, whereas others have to drink sugary drinks to avoid going low. Different diabetics experience low or high blood glucose levels differently. One might get angry or anxious when approaching a low BG, whereas some just go pale and shaky. It gets worse at the grocery store if one has a hypo standing in line with a chocolate bar in hand. They would just want to pay for the candy bar so they can eat it but the queue just won’t MOVE! That for e.g. is when I feel a bit aggressive but I have learned to just eat the candy bar while standing there and pay for the wrap. Eventually you’ll probably learn to see when your significant other is acting “like in a hypo”. However, you might want to avoid suggesting a blood glucose measurement. Nothing feels as frustrating when someone invalidates a type 1 diabetic’s negative emotions by suggesting ”It’s only your diabetes doing its tricks”. I would think it is something like telling an angry woman “it’s just your hormones talking”. Tread carefully here. At high BG levels the most common symptoms are fatigue and frequent need for urination, but there are differences here too. For the first few years since Continue reading >>

If You Meet Someone With Type 1 Diabetes, This Is What You Should Know

If You Meet Someone With Type 1 Diabetes, This Is What You Should Know

Picture this. He’s just started his freshman year in college. He is out every night, meeting new friends by the minute. He is young, bright-eyed, kind-hearted, a dreamer, an optimist. Life is full of freedom and free of responsibility. It’s fun, it’s chaotic, it’s being 19. And then he wakes up one morning and he knows something isn’t right. He’s weak and beyond exhausted. He tries to brush it aside and goes about his days until he starts losing weight and the insatiable thirst kicks in. Soon it’s impossible to ignore. He walks in to a doctor’s appointment free and he leaves with a monster that he will have to carry with him for the rest of his life. For reasons no one fully understands, his immune system has attacked the beta cells in his pancreas and this vital organ has stopped producing life-saving insulin. He has done nothing wrong. He is young, fit and the picture of health but his body has failed him. This monster is called type 1 diabetes (T1D). And he is my big brother, my hero. On that day he was just one of hundreds of children, young adults and adults that had to take on that very same monster. He was shattered, lost, facing a life with an unforgiving and terrifying illness. He was no longer just 19. Instead of having the world at his feet he had a huge burden on his shoulders. His everyday freedom ripped from him. None of us knew where to turn next. That day he lost a free-spirited part of himself that I fear will never return, but he also found within him a strength, determination and inspiring nature more powerful then ever before. Now, 14 years on, he still fights hard to dream and to stay optimistic. He mentors teenagers newly diagnosed with T1D, and he constantly shows his two little boys what it means to be courageous. He has to wake u Continue reading >>

My New Boyfriend Sufferers From Type 1 Diabetes, What Do I Need To Know?

My New Boyfriend Sufferers From Type 1 Diabetes, What Do I Need To Know?

Guest over a year ago Hi, my boyfriend of 9 months has type 1 diabetes as well. I know a little about it, but mostly I just feel in the dark about his medical life. I would also like to learn more about it, because I know it is a part of his life, and he is a part of my life. I feel like it would be a burden to ask him, but I would like to have just as much of an understanding of it as he does, so I can really understand how it impacts his life. I know that diabetics can have seizures if they get too low, and that if they do have a seizure, you should put sugar or icing on their gums, as it is the fastest way for their bodies to absorb sugar. If you are dating a diabetic, you should probably know this, in case you are alone together, and something happens. I was wondering if something that happens to my boyfriend is normal...when he gets low, he loses all of his sex drive. is this normal for diabetics? to be a little more informative: they have to inject with insulin when theyre blood sugar is too high. it helps break down the glucose. when the blood sugar is low, they need to eat. my boyfriend suffers from type 1 diabetes as well. usually i carry a bag or 2 of skittles in case he gets low. thats what he likes. starbursts work well too. try to stay away from chocolate. although it has sugar, it has fat which consumes the sugar so it doesnt work as well. i usually try to be a little pushy with him checking his sugar with a meter. i dont know how much you know about it, but the meter is the little thing that records and tells you how high your sugar is. theyre supposed to check pretty often and my boyfriends in the stage where he likes to ignore that he has it. and he gets very upset and angry when hes low or high (referring to sugar) so i know it annoys him, but its for Continue reading >>

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