Is It Safe To Marry Diabetic Women?
Thank you for the A2A on the question, "Is it safe to marry [a] diabetic [woman]?" In a word, No. And I apologize for my brashness but what I mean is, not for you. There is nothing in your question to identify your age so I am going to assume you are younger, in which case the type of diabetic you are most likely to consider marrying is Type 1. As has already been mentioned, diabetes is not contagious. So you are "safe" from the person you are considering as a partner. Type 1 Diabetes appears to have a genetic connection (Genetics of Type 1 Diabetes). If you marry a diabetic and then have children, there is an increased chance of your children also developing diabetes. From time to time, the blood sugar levels of Type 1 Diabetics fall out of the safe range and become either too high or too low. As a spouse yourself, you would need to know how to recognize and treat these conditions if your wife for some reason is unable to treat them herself. There can be complications from diabetes and these ultimately could end in death. This would be emotionally difficult for you and would be incredibly hard on any children you may have had, whether those children had diabetes or not. I could go on but none of that even matters. When one spouse has diabetes, the other spouse has to live with it. That is what marriage is about. You, the non-diabetic, need to be supportive to your wife. Maybe she has decided to follow a restricted diet. As a good spouse, guess what you are going to be eating, at least any time you are at home? She is going to need insulin, syringes or an insulin pump, a glucose meter and testing strips. Every day. Depending on the type of healthcare coverage that is available to you, this could be expensive. She also will need to go to the doctor regularly. Paying for Continue reading >>
When You Love A Woman With Type 1 Diabetes
I know a lot of women with Type 1 diabetes. Some are friends, colleagues, peers and some are women, young and old, whose paths have crossed with mine at different times for different reasons. And even though each and every one of us are different in the way we view, experience and react to our Type 1 diabetes, I typically find that, when we first discover we are both meandering the snaking female Type 1 diabetes footpath, there is a collective knowing, a camaraderie that instantly bonds our lives in an inquisitive way. Often, we will immediately begin to chat like old friends and many times, we will openly begin to share intimate details with each other. We talk about the effect of our diabetes on our careers, our health, our loved ones, spouses, families and friends. For me, it’s emotionally comforting to connect with someone who really and truly gets what I’m going through. Trust me when I say that the emotional side of diabetes is a huge piece of the puzzle and if it is not taken into consideration, it can unravel all well laid diabetes plans. So if you love a woman with Type 1diabetes, maybe this blog will give you a little something to consider. Or maybe you already know everything. That being said…. Women With Type 1 Diabetes and Sexual Intimacy Ever try to enjoy sex with Type 1 diabetes while worrying about your blood sugar dropping or soaring? How about having your medical devices front and center on your body? And because of the cost, and inconvenience I might add, of a device being knocked off, I always have to consider where my devices are on my body to help avoid that scenario. And even after marriage to a man who says he doesn’t care about my devices, the thought that I will look “medicinal” to him creates vulnerability in me that I don’t like Continue reading >>
10 Things We Women With Diabetes Want You To Know
While we're on the topic of women with diabetes this week, who hasn't yet heard of the Girl's Guide to Diabetes? It's a must-visit for all us super-sweet females, run by type 1 sisters Sysy and Ana Morales. Sysy is a great DOC friend, frequent commenter here at the 'Mine, a wife, mother of twin toddlers, diabetes advocate, and a freelance writer. We are delighted to feature her take here today on a girls' view of good diabetes support: A Guest Post by Sysy Morales By having twins as a type 1 diabetic two months before my husband and I even celebrated our first wedding anniversary, I was able to discover early on that I had a guy who would be respectful and loving no matter how tough life got. I am very lucky. This doesn't mean I didn't have to constantly communicate with him about my diabetes, however. I couldn't just expect him to be insightful about my feelings regarding aspects of my diabetes without any explanation.... Why, the man has never even had a headache! Aside from thinking over my own relationship, I've been getting a lot of emails from guys wanting information about "dating a diabetic girl." If you happen to be one of these men, or you're already in a relationship with a woman with diabetes, this post is for you! Ladies, definitely post any additions or different opinions you have in the comments section. We're all unique and I would expect some of this to vary. For the guy in a relationship with a girl who has diabetes, here are 10 things we want you to know: 1. Recognize that your girl might be very emotional about her illness. Sometimes she needs you to listen to her rant. Let her. Most likely she doesn't need you to solve a problem. The thing I loved most about my husband while we dated was his willingness to listen. Now, if you have to force yourself Continue reading >>
Marrying A Beautiful Girl With Type 1 Diabetes
Marrying a beautiful Girl with Type 1 Diabetes Hi, I am planning to marry a beautiful girl who has type 1 diabetes. I love her dearly and her diabetes does not change that. She was diagonosed when she was 3. She has to take Insulin injections every day twice. My question is that can we have kids in future and will there be any complications in future. I am willing to walk extra mile with her. I want to help her but she is very sensitive when it comes to diabetes. I can't think of loosing her because of any complications becuase of diabetes. Some guidance and suggestion would be appreciated. She can have kids, the diabetes doesn't prevent that, but her blood sugar should be checked extra often during the pregnancy - if it gets too low or too high it may be serious for the kid (deformed limbs, death, etc.).. Your (future) kids will also have an increased chance of getting diabetes themselves. And as for the happy years to come (when she's not pregnant), low blood sugar on daytime isn't a big problem. She's had it all her life (I got it when I was 8, and can still remember not having to have to take injections before meals), she will feel that her blood sugar is low, and then eat a snack. The worst part is if she gets low blood sugar when she (and you) are sleeping.. I once had a low blood sugar episode during a night with my girlfriend.. Afterwards she told me I was shaking, my limbs were "locked" (she couldn't my my arms/legs), and that my pupils were extremely large.. She called an ambulanse and they fixed me pretty fast, I didn't even have to go to the hospital.. To make a long story short: if we hadn't slept so close that she had wakened by the shaking, I would have died that night. But low blood sugar episodes happen, nobody has total control of their blood sugar (e Continue reading >>
Type 1 Diabetics Need Pre-marriage Counselling
Type 1 diabetics need pre-marriage counselling Counselling and guidance are necessary to provide youth with Type 1 Diabetes with the confidence that a good marital life is indeed possible for them, according to a study conducted at the M.V.Hospital for Diabetes and Prof. M.Viswanathan Diabetes Research Centre, Royapuram. The study showed that all the female participants with Type 1 Diabetes and 82 per cent of male participants were worried about getting married. About 86 per cent of women and 56 per cent of men in the study group felt they will not be able to fulfil their partner's expectations. When it came to enjoying a good sex life, 90 per cent of the males and 56 per cent of female participants had the perception that they would not be able to perform. All the female participants and 72 per cent of males felt they could not have healthy children, and that their offspring would also be diabetic. Type 1 Diabetes is the most challenging disorder for children. They are mostly diagnosed between 5 and 15 years, and in rare instances, even in the first year after birth, Vijay Viswanathan, MD, MV Hosptial for Diabetes, explains. They have to be off sweets and on insulin shots right through. The condition can be very traumatic, not only for the child, but also for the family. The study was executed through a questionnaire that sought to test the emotional well-being, concepts of marriage and conception among the participants. Most participants had lived with diabetes for a minimum of 10 years, and were of marriageable age. In many instances, their self-esteem was really low. This reflects on their impressions of marriage and procreation as well, Dr. Viswanathan adds. While men with Type 1 Diabetes believe that they are sure to have erectile dysfunction, women are afraid th Continue reading >>
Diabetessisters
My experience having a wife with type 1 diabetes is not so different from any other marriage, with the exception of having a complicated, treacherous side kick along for the ride. My wife, Anna, was upfront with me regarding hertype 1 diabetesfrom early on in our relationship. I realized right away what a burden it is to tell a boyfriend that you have a serious, lifealtering issue, knowing full well that it might scare off a lot of guys. A silver lining could be that it might help point out the wrong kind of man to date. I was worried that Anna wouldn't like my receding hairline, she was worried I wouldn't like her life sustaining insulin pump, not quite the same level of seriousness. Anna's aunt vetted me by asking her "did you tell that boy about your machine"? Maybe something is lost in the Spanish-English translation, but it asks much more than it seems. Can he handle it? Is he the right kind of guy to date? A few years after we met, we decided to get married and had a long conversation about starting a family. Anna was determined to be a mother and together, we forged ahead. A major source of worry and of reward for my wife and I, as a couple, was the choice we made to have a child. Anna worked long and hard at preparing to get pregnant, knowing full well that she needed to have her A1c below a target numberwhich she had arrived at with her endocrinologist. For months Anna had a part time job as her own A1C mechanic, doing her best to ensure that when the test was taken, her numbers would be the very best they could be. The process itself is a sobering one, as it presents an awareness of how type 1 has a strange hold on the life of one's wife as well as the health of your unborn child. Usually the only concerns about when to try and get pregnant are related to mon Continue reading >>
I Am In Touch With A Girl Regarding Marriage. She Is Type 1 Diabetic, 30 Years Old, Perfectly Fit And Fine.please Suggest Shall I Move On?
I am in touch with a girl regarding marriage. She is type 1 diabetic, 30 years old, perfectly fit and fine.Please suggest shall i move on? I think you may need to consult a relationship counsellor about this. I can only offer my opinion; that marriage is about love, for better or worse. Yes, you may definitely go ahead. There no need to worry, she can enjoy married life without any hassles with you. The only importance things to be remember life time are Proper and regular check up with a qualified Doctor, have check up of eyes, foot, and dental for once in year without fail. Always think positive that SHE is completely healthy and there is no need to worry every morning when you wake up. . She can regularly follow Yoga and Pranayams which will avoid extra intake of medicines . NO NEED FOR ANY FURTHER COUNSELING FOR THIS. BOOST HER CONFIDENCE AND HELP HER TO FIGHT WITH DIABETES. All the best and wish you a very live and successfull married life all the times . absolutely pragmatic, agreed, endorsed!!!!!!!!!!!! not necessarily a diabetic should marry with same condition of opp. gender. many factors influence such decisions, lifestyles, family culture, family environs, habits, moods, psychological factors too at play, individual's income, etc. etc. yet, all contributors are simply fantastic people, good inspiration, keep it up! God bless us ALL with good health Go ahead, if everything else is Ok. I agree with Rintu. Imagine, if one of the spouses has got diabetic after marriage. On eshould learn how to manage it. may 20 years back, the life expatancy for a diabetic was much shorter. Thanks to better understanding of the disease and advancement in the medicine, diabetis is now managed much better. I am a diabetic for past 19 years and having perfect life till date. Many d Continue reading >>
When You Love A Woman With Type 1 Diabetes
I know a lot of women with Type 1 diabetes. Some are friends, colleagues, peers and some are women, young and old, whose paths have crossed with mine at different times for different reasons. And even though each and every one of us are different in the way we view, experience and react to our Type 1 diabetes, I typically find that, when we first discover we are both meandering the snaking female Type 1 diabetes footpath, there is a collective knowing, a camaraderie that instantly bonds our lives in an inquisitive way. Often, we will immediately begin to chat like old friends and many times, we will openly begin to share intimate details with each other. We talk about the effect of our diabetes on our careers, our health, our loved ones, spouses, families and friends. For me, it’s emotionally comforting to connect with someone who really and truly gets what I’m going through. Trust me when I say that the emotional side of diabetes is a huge piece of the puzzle and if it is not taken into consideration, it can unravel all well laid diabetes plans. So if you love a woman with Type 1, maybe this blog will give you a little something to consider. Or maybe you already know everything. That being said.... Women With Type 1 Diabetes and Sexual Intimacy Ever try to enjoy sex while worried about your blood sugar dropping or soaring? How about having your medical devices front and center on your body? And because of the cost, and inconvenience I might add, of a device being knocked off, I always have to consider where my devices are on my body to help avoid that scenario. And even after marriage to a man who says he doesn’t care about my devices, the thought that I will look “medicinal” to him creates vulnerability in me that I don’t like. And heaven forbid that he ac Continue reading >>
Marriage And Type 1 Diabetes | Diabetic Connect
Howdy channji! WELCOME to DiabeticConnect! I see no reason a T1, or any other type of Person With Diabetes (PWD) should not marry. Do you have a choice of a PWD and a nonPWD as a marriage partner? That's great for you, you smoothie! This is just MY preference for ME . . . . I have many "medical challenges" and I have found that people who have other medical challenges are generally more accepting of my medical challenges in return. In 2009 I married my bride "Jem" who had many many serious medical challenges. Sharing some of the same challenges, I believe strengthened our relationship greatly. Unfortunately she had so many potentially deadly challenges, that in July 2010 one or more of them "took" her from me. She went to sleep one night and I couldn't wake her in the morning. She had already become cold overnight. that was hard to discover her like that, but I am glad she went peacefully in her own bed with all her things around her, not in some noisy hospital! She was a special lady and my life was enriched by knowing her and being with her. (her friends and family said she said the same of me.) Now I am talking with a lady who has cerebal palsy, thinking of getting together with her, eventually. Right now she is 1800+ mi away from me here in Las Vegas. She is talking about coming to LV this coming April. But back to your question: ")What is good * to marry a type 1 diabetic person or * to marry a non- diabetic person."[?] If you have maintained your health, and have no major complications, there are no reasons I see to avoid either type of person (or even a t2 either). I'm a type 1 diabeteic and have been for 34 years (I'm 49). I was married, divorced and now married again. I don't see any problem with getting married simply because you're a diabetic. I will say I t Continue reading >>
5 Tips For A Happier Marriage With Diabetes
5 Tips for a Happier Marriage With Diabetes After you bolus for your wedding cake, heres what you need to know It has been said that the first year of marriage is often the hardest. Learning to live as a pair and work as a team when diabetes is in the picture often requires some adjustments, even for the longest-term couples. Here are some expert tips: After planning a wedding and celebrating the big day, then coming back down to Earth, you may find that you have neglected parts of your relationship. Starting off as a married couple means investing in togethernesseven when it comes to tackling diabetes. We know from research looking at mismatched couples, where one has a disease and one doesnt, if both have a mind frame that were in it together, they have better outcomes [and] marriage satisfaction, says Tai Mendenhall, PhD, LMFT, who specializes in medical family therapy at the University of Minnesota. When one partner is removed from the others disease management, it can get in the way of a team approach and healthy relationship. Your partner should not be left in the dark about your diabetes management. Anne Safran Dalin, 63, of Hillsborough, New Jersey, has been married to her husband, Jim, for 41 years. She was diagnosed with prediabetes in 2005 and now manages her type2 diabetes by following a healthy diet. Its up to the [person with diabetes] to educate their partner in the care of their health, Dalin says, noting that Jim commits to eating healthy meals with her. If a partner is willing to attend an educational program or [a] session with a diabetes counselor, that would be a huge step forward for the couple. Sarah Mart, 45, of Fort Collins, Colorado, has been living with type1 diabetes since she was 7 years old. Her wife, Anne Kirven, doesnt have diabetes, so Continue reading >>
Type 1 Diabetes Puts Strain On Marriage
The study, published in Diabetes Care, was done in four focus group sessions, two with 16 adults with type 1 diabetes and two with 14 of their spouses. The intent was to gather preliminary information to guide future research in an under-studied field, says researcher Paula M. Trief, PhD, professor of medicine at the State University of New York Upstate Medical University in Syracuse. "There is literature on the importance of relationships for patients with type 2 diabetes, but very little research on psychological and psychosocial issues of adult type 1 patients at all. They get a lot of attention when they’re kids, then it just drops off completely," she says. The findings of the study suggest that a patient’s personal relationships can affect their diabetes and that doctors should ask patients how things are going at home. In some cases, having the patient bring the partner to an office visit could allow the doctor to explain concepts to the partner as well, Trief says. In the focus groups, both patients and partners were asked two broad questions, followed by free-flowing discussion: “What are the emotional and interpersonal challenges you have experienced because you have (your partner has) type 1 diabetes?” “How does the fact that you have (your partner has) type 1 diabetes affect your relationship with your partner, positively and/or negatively?” Partner involvement ranged from very involved and supportive to “help when asked,” in which the partner is helpful when called upon but otherwise not involved. Emotionally, most patients expressed positive feelings toward the level of support they received from their spouse and a sense that the condition had brought them closer together. However, a smaller group mentioned a negative impact from the diabet Continue reading >>
Marrying Into Diabetes: A Husband’s Perspective
I am married to a beautiful woman with type 1 diabetes. On many days, diabetes has churned the waters in our relationship. I’ve argued with low blood sugars and lost. What woman can be responsible for being snippy when her blood sugar’s at 35 mg/dl (2 mmol/L)? I’ve watched date night get canceled by an all day high. My empathy for Elizabeth is spiked with a little anger. But how can I talk about my frustration at diabetes when it’s a trifle next to the boulder that Elizabeth carries? These feelings sit inside me. They fester. I try to be strong. On difficult days, frustration boils over. Other times I don’t know what to say. I lie there in bed while she has low blood sugar and struggles. I see how much it’s hurting her, how hard it is for her, how bad she feels. I want her to know that I see it, and it tears me up, and I wish there was a way I could share that burden. But instead I say I’m sorry. The last thing she wants is pity. I’ve learned a lot about diabetes helping develop Diabetes Daily over the last six years. Yet when it comes to my own relationship with the most important person in my life, I still get it wrong too often. The challenges faced by those who care about someone with diabetes are rarely discussed. It ends up hurting both the person with diabetes and the person without it. So this year, let’s start a dialogue about ways that people with diabetes and their loved ones can support each other better. I invite any loved ones who would like to talk about their experiences to get in touch or to write about it on your own site and share a link. I also encourage couples to attend the 2012 National DiabetesSisters Conference in Raleigh, NC this May. There will be a session specifically for those without diabetes to talk about issues like thi Continue reading >>
Should I Marry With A Girl Having Diabetes Type 1 ?
Should I marry with a girl having diabetes type 1 ? Registration is fast, simple and absolutely free so please,join our community todayto contribute and support the site. This topic is now archived and is closed to further replies. Should I marry with a girl having diabetes type 1 ? I am new to this forum. I am living with diabetes type 1 and my age is 24 years. My parents are worrying about my marriage. I know a girl having similar kind of problem (having type 1 diabetes). So my question is whether i should marry with her or not ? Is there any future complications ? If we marry now and in future we have a baby, will it be with diabetes type 1 ? What is the possibilities of it ? What kind of other problems may arise in our marriage life because of diabetes type 1? It will be very much beneficial for both of us if we marry with each other. But this is only problem we are facing. If it is not a proper forum for this question, please tell me which forum is suitable for this question. Well this is a very intimate and personal question you are asking on an anonymous online support forum. No one can possibly tell you what to do with your life. It's up to you. The only thing I'd say is this. If I had a fiance who was asking the question of whether he should marry me on the net, I'd have to seriously ponder whether I'd still want to go ahead with it. Have you ever considered how hurt your fiance would be if she discovered your post? Every culture, every tribe, every community, every religion...has its idea of what marriage should be about. What works best from what I've seen is being married to your best friend and being in love. That takes time to build and seems to conquer just about anything that's thrown at the marriage. Once that base is there...doesn't really matter who Continue reading >>
My Journey With A Type 1 Diabetic
My Journey With a Type 1 Diabetic Written by: Mitchell Jacobs I remember the first time I met Brittany, it was like yesterday. She was this cute, bubbly, giggly girl. But mostly what I remember is how beautiful I thought she was. We began dating when I was only 19, I was fresh out of high school without a clue of what the world was or even what diabetes was. All I knew was my pickup truck, my dog Petey and this girl I couldn’t stop thinking about. Then one day I was with her and she introduced me to this disease I had never been familiar with. Known as Type 1 Diabetes. We were out to lunch like any couple would be and Brittany began to explain to me the details of her disease. I didn’t know anything, and at the time it didn’t really phase me much either. As months passed we moved in together. This is when I really started to see how ugly of a disease Type 1 Diabetes really is. Her family had recently dropped her from the insurance and Brittany and I began to feel the repercussions of it, barely being able to afford food, let alone insulin. I began to see Brittany’s blood sugars crashing to lows so severe that she would become unconscious. I was having to wrestle with my girlfriend going from normal to extremely combative to unconscious, and having to call 911, all within an hour. I was flabbergasted by this disease. “What in the HELL was going on!” Why is her blood sugar so wacky and why can’t we figure this out?” I remember becoming so involved in trying to figure this disease out and be as supportive as I possibly could. One day she had an appointment at the endocrinologist’s office, and I stayed up the whole night thinking about questions to ask this Doctor, so I could write them down in a notebook. I needed to know how to fix this disease. “it’ Continue reading >>
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The Effects Of Diabetes On Relationships
Will you leave your SO (significant other) because of diabetes? Committed relationships are hard enough. When you add a chronic illness into the mix of everyday problems, it can place undue stress on a relationship. Do you leave your spouse or partner with diabetes when the going gets tough, or do you stick it out and work together to solve problems that come up, “in sickness and in health?” These are questions you may be asking yourself if you have been going through a tough time in your relationship or marriage due to diabetes. If your partner is in a state of denial and they are refusing to participate in self-care activities or listen to their doctor, this can be quite frustrating. You may be getting burnt out from always trying to fix the right amount of carbohydrates, only to catch your other half in the back room hiding with a box of candy. Feeling like you are the “diabetes police” and always nagging drains the joy out of your relationship. The spouse of a diabetic can feel a loss of control over the future, and be afraid that they will lose their life partner. Conversely, if you are the diabetic in the match, you tend to get quite aggravated with all of the nagging and “sugar-shaming” that can be going on. Maybe your partner didn’t support you by attending diabetes education classes, and now she doesn’t seem to know that it’s ok for you to have an occasional treat. Maybe she doesn’t realize that you are having the extra carbohydrates, but you have a walk planned for after the meal. Sometimes you feel misunderstood. It’s true that diabetes can take a physical, mental and financial toll on a relationship. Remember that your overbearing and controlling partner is acting from a place of genuine caring and concern for you. Now let’s look at t Continue reading >>
